Music Education Today

Based on the cover of this book and knowing nothing else but what was writtne on the back when I bought it, I would not recomend this book. It’s misleading. Nowhere does it mention God or The Creator that he talks so much about or the fact that he’s a Christian psychologist. I was highly dissapointed when I found God on every single page of this book talking about the rights and wrongs of what God has planned for you as far as sex in marriage goes. This isn’t to say that I’m against God or don’t belive in Him, but really, that was not what I expected out of this book at all. I think some of the things he says could be used regardless of your religious beliefs, but much of it is too focused on what’s right in God’s eyes.
Rating: 1 / 5

The major flaw in this book is that it suffers the presumption that graphic detail equals profundity. It’s unnecessary, and in my view, pornographic descriptions (e.g., Chapter 7, “Oral Delights”) does nothing but to serve up shock masquerading as insight, and the book gives but passing comment to the deeper issues that contribute to truly satisfying, life-long monogamous intimacy (i.e., the building of trust, character, tenderness, commitment, etc.). Indeed, if sexual technique were the key to that area of life, this culture would have no need of any additional material. The topic would have been better served if approached from this angle: “We are arguably the most sex-saturated culture in the world, and yet the most sex-starved. Why?”

In short, it does a huge disservice to the Christian community, not only for the above reasons, but because it assumes to accurately portray how Christ himself would address the issue. There’s very little doubt in my mind He’d toss it in the trash.
Rating: 1 / 5

Dr. Kevin Lehman is a prolific author, who has appeared on a number of well-known television and radio programs. In ‘Sheet Music’ Dr. Leman spends a fair number of pages on the mechanics of sex, including a few anatomical diagrams. But with ‘Sheet Music’ I would offer several caveats for Christians to keep in mind about this book:

‘Sheet Music’ does not reflect an understanding of the primary authority that Scripture is intended to have for believers. Secular perspectives are commonly seen as having equal or even primary authority in comparison to Scripture.

‘Sheet Music’ fails to present or even assume a full biblical context for Christian life and marriage. The book assumes that Christian marriage is monogamous, but provides little to nothing more in the way of biblical support – even failing to present or make reference to biblical passages would powerfully and dramatically support the author’s point! The substantially secular viewpoint reflected in this book includes:

· Recommendations that draw from a secular viewpoint, omitting biblical insights

· Directing Christians specifically to resources outside the local church that have a claim to expertise that lies substantially in secular qualifications, but not spiritual qualifications.

‘Sheet Music’ falls short of presenting or assuming the full set of biblical passages, such as:

· Biblical passages that contain critical revelations from God, Who created marriage and designed sexual intimacy (including Ephesians 5:21-33; 1 Peter 3:1-7, etc.).

· Biblical passages on the believer’s position and condition, identification, walking in the Spirit, recognizing and dealing with the sin nature, and even basic biblical principles on topics like `anxiety’ (Philippians 4:6; 1 Peter 5:7).

· The difference between Law and Grace, and the huge difference it makes in all areas of life (sexual intimacy included) and even into eternity (Romans 5; 7:1-6).

· By pointing believers to resources outside of the local church (counseling professionals, sexual therapy clinics, etc.) believers are then setting aside true biblical counsel within the body of Christ, much of the authority and primacy of God’s word, and are telling believers to go to resources that are not grace-based, but are charging for their services (contrary to 2 Corinthians 2:17 & chapters 8, 9).

· Believers are directed to the resources of this world (Galatians 6:14; Ephesians 2:1-3) and of the sin nature. With the best of intentions, believers are thereby instructed to walk according to this world’s best understanding and in reliance upon the sin nature.

With the understanding that I do not recommend this book overall, here are some of the better quotes from this book:

A couple’s sex life is usually a microcosm of the marriage. Every now and then a couple has a great sex life with a poor marriage, but this is the rarity, something you see only every couple of years. Page 10

You need to know that every day a woman internally asks her husband, Do you really love me? Do you really care? Page 10

What warms a woman up is when her husband helps around the house, picks up after himself, helps with the children, makes arrangements for dates, and overall cares for her. If a husband consistently and graciously does this without acting like a martyr, he’s going to find, six times out of ten, that his wife is ready and eager to enjoy an active and fulfilling love life. It will be a natural response to a lifestyle of sincere affection. Page 11

Most of us men want to be our wives’ heroes. Page 11
Rating: 2 / 5